Highs and Lows with the flows

People often say, “With the lowest points come the highs.” But where do these highs actually lie?

Hello! I’ve been searching for them since 2019.

We all hear the advice: “Just hang on until life gets better.” But does this advice really work? Honestly, I don’t think so. Before you start judging my thoughts, let me explain. With my limited English skills,  Chat gpt said so.

The truth is, highs don’t just appear out of lows. You have to create them for yourself. I’ve been stuck in my lows for what feels like forever. The last year I remember feeling genuinely happy was 2019. Then someone ate a bat, and the world changed. Why would you eat a bat man? 

Since then, life has felt heavy, and even though I’ve tried to find happiness, it’s often been temporary.

Still, I know this: unless you push yourself to rise from your lowest point, you’ll never truly find your highest. You can’t rely on life to hand you joy. Maybe “holding on” really means doing the things you love, over and over, until they bring light again.

Sometimes that means finding new hobbies or improving at old ones. It’s never too late to get up from a low point. But no one will ever fully know what you’re going through. So don’t rely on others to fix you, and stop blaming them for your choices.

Lows and highs don’t flow naturally. They only shift when you decide to rise. Every small step toward self-improvement can open the door to unexpected joys and new discoveries about yourself.

If you ask me what my highs were, I’d say it was when I could be myself without hiding anything. Back then, I didn’t feel judged. Now, it feels like people are always judging me—from the guy I rejected to the one I dated. Their judgment makes me want to hide parts of myself.

In 2019, I was just a kid living in a fairy tale. Later, during college, I had so much fun—maybe more than anyone in my circle. But it came with secrets. It wasn’t all crystal clear. Was it happiness, or just a version of it I created?

So no, happiness and freedom aren’t the only “highs.” Highs can mean different things to different people. You have to find your own.

Maybe that’s where positive psychology comes in. People think psychology is only about studying the mind and behavior, but it’s much more than that.

Being real does reduce stress, but as we grow older and take on responsibilities, it gets harder to manage everything. Still, as someone once said: “It’s all part of life.”

Maybe the trick is this: when you hit your lowest, try to become both positive and smart.

And above all, don’t pin it all on one person. Not your ex. Not anyone.